Tips for Single Women Who Want to Meet a Man
I was recently chatting with one of my girlfriends discussing how many single women there are in NYC. As you know, New York is filled with millions of people from all walks of life. The old saying “there’s many fish in the sea” couldn’t be more true in this thriving city. It seems that single women dress for other women, not men. In a survey by Daily Mail, six out of ten women, aged between 18 and 30, said that they had their friends in mind when they choose what to wear on a big night out.
For single women who want to meet a man, start dressing for the opposite sex. Here are some tips that will help you meet the man of your dreams.
Focus On Your Style, Not Brand Labels
Women now dress for other women by wearing luxury brands. It’s become almost like a competition. Who has the nicest Chanel bag or Louboutins? In all honesty, men could care less if your shoe bottoms are red (unless that’s the type of man you’re trying to attract, of course). So remember, don’t dress for other women and don’t do what they’re doing. Focus on you and your style with confidence.
Have a Balance
If you’re going out for the night hoping to meet a nice guy, make sure your wardrobe is balanced. For instance, showing lots of skin can possible attract the wrong type of guy. A bit of cleavage is okay, but don’t over-do it! On the other hand, covering it all up might not get you noticed at all. Have a healthy balance of showing some skin to let his imagination run, but keep it modest so you’re not giving the goodies away for free. The next time you step out with hopes of meeting Mr. Right, maybe try a cold shoulder top, baring some skin but in a very classy way. Another option would be trying a shirt that reveals a small bit of your back through a slit. I recommend steering away from low cut shirts that expose too much of your chest. It’s distracting, sends the wrong message and may attract the wrong type of guy. So ladies, the next time you’re headed out, keep in mind – balance, balance, balance!
Dress with Confidence
We all know that confidence is SEXY! It’s important to find the right outfit that you truly feel confident in. We all have those go-to pieces in our closet that just make us feel sexy when we put them on. Those are your ticket to finding confidence within your wardrobe. Curb the temptation to reach for the oversized baggy dress that may be cute, but you know doesn’t give you the same confidence that your slim-fitting black dress does. It might even require you to play around in your closet a little bit. Don’t be afraid to get in front of the mirror to try a little mix-and-match styling. You may just realize that something as small as adding your favorite pumps suddenly gives you that VA-VA-VOOM sexy mama kind-of-look! Have fun playing with your style to gain the right amount of confidence you need to strut your stuff.
Keep Things Simple
Let’s face it, most men are low-maintenance and probably look for that similarity in their ideal mate as well. We’ve all heard boyfriends and husbands talking about how they take five to ten minutes getting ready, while their partner takes at least an hour. I know I’ve heard it from my husband and some of my husband’s friends. The truth is, if you want to avoid the dreaded ‘high maintenance’ category, then simplify your routine. Additionally, many men complain about the amount of makeup and product women tend to use. At the end of the day, you want to attract a man who isn’t superficial and likes the natural you.
Flaunt Your Curves
Don’t be afraid to wear something that fits you just right, showing off your sexy curves. For instance, wearing a jumpsuit might look a little big and baggy on you, hiding your curves. By adding a belt at the waist, it can really tighten up the look by giving it a more hugging fit. Give it a try and see the difference in how the once loose-fitting garment now hugs your body more. Finding the right piece that fits your body be a challenging task though. Don’t be afraid to visit a tailor to help bring in a garment that will accent your best features!
Be Unforgettable with Fragrance
Your fragrance choice represents you. Choosing a scent that reflects your personality is important, but you also want to choose a scent that will appeal to the opposite sex. Learning how to choose your fragrance is simple: First, learn the major fragrance families. There are major scent families – floral, citrus, amber and woody fragrances. Each family can evoke various reactions, depending on the scent. If you’re looking for a scent that appeals to both men and women, go with a vanilla-based fragrance. Vanilla is a natural aphrodisiac and libido enhancer. No matter what you choose, just remember that you should go for a scent that is warm, sexy and relaxing at the same time. Men will undoubtedly comment on how great you smell!
Attract with Color
According to Daily Mail, wearing red enhances a woman’s sex appeal and make her more approachable. Red has been associated with romance, passion, lust and fertility, thus enhancing the sexual attraction that men feel. In a survey by OkCupid, it found that women who wear red in their online dating profile photo are more likely to get messages and dates than those wearing any other color.
Know Where to Find Men
Sure, online dating has become the place to meet, but let’s face it – there’s nothing better than seeing that special someone in action, walking, talking and smiling. Think about where men go and frequent those places. For example, if you’re attracted to the business man, make reservations or frequent bars during happy hour on a Friday within your city’s Financial District. Remember, this type of man won’t be out at 2am. More than likely, he’ll wrap up his week with co-workers and meet at a favorite spot near the office.
Don’t Be Shy
Don’t be afraid to initiate conversation. Shoot eye contact, smile, walk over and say, “Hi.” If you’re shy this might sound difficult, but challenge yourself! I promise you it could be a life changer. I’ve spoken to many men who have told me that they have lost their mojo because they are so preoccupied with work. They’ve forgotten how to approach women. Be fearless and make the first move with a simple “hello.” It will go a long way!
Ignore the “Rules”
You’ve landed his email or phone number. Now what? If he’s given you his contact information, then there IS interest. Ask him what time is best for him and reach out at that time. Avoid playing games! I’ve heard women say that they won’t call right away because it may seem desperate. That is ridiculous! Know what you want and go after it. There is nothing “desperate” about making the appropriate moves towards happiness!